Comfort In The Midst of Domestic Violence

images (3)Janay Rice you are not alone. There’s no despair, abuse, embarrassment, discouragement, shame or loneliness that can overwhelm you and take you hostage if you remember …GOD IS WITH YOU.

“To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his a++ off for all his life just to gain rating is horrific. THIS IS OUR LIFE!”


Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hope, always perseveres. Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

What is missing at the core of this story?  LOVE from all parties. The media and NFL are both being self-seeking while the public is being rude and unkind. And you Janay has not shown love to yourself or to your daughter. You only claims you love Ray.

Janay are you worried about your financial situation? Fear not. GOD IS WITH YOU.

Are you feeling lost or embarrassed because the media has exposed you and the public has no concern for you as a human being? Fear not. GOD IS WITH YOU.

Are you afraid to leave Ray because you’re married and believe it’s your duty as his wife to stand by him no matter what? Fear not. GOD IS WITH YOU.

Ray hurt you physically but your denial has hurted and tormented you spiritually. Not all wounds are visible but fear not. GOD IS WITH YOU.

God’s greatest gift to you Janay is your daughter, Rayven.Think about her safety.Think about what you’re teaching her distorted love looks like. Hold her close to you and together, with God, move on. This isn’t about Ray Rice or the NFL Commissioner losing their jobs this is about preventing you from losing your life. It only gets worse if you stay.

Put your confidences in God. He will stand before you and protect you from your abuser, the media and the public. He will protect you from yourself. God is your hiding place so turn to Him for comfort and believe what He said in His Word He is able to do.

I’m praying you go and start a healthy new life Janay by stepping out of the dark and into the light. God is light. God is life. God is all you need to go from where you are to where He wants you being. Be courageous! Do not despair! And remember GOD IS LOVE AND LOVE NEVER FAILS. Remember… GOD IS WITH YOU.















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4 replies

  1. Thank you Vernon for writing this post as a man of God. So many women are dying in abusive relationships and are afraid to take a stand and walk. Even though this young lady is still supporting her husband you can see the pain and loneliness in her eyes. She needs to be delivered.

    It is also amazing the amount of women who are supporting her hisband in spite of his abusiveness. The enemy has tricked so many people that they cannot decipher between good and evil; right and wrong. We as Christians need to pray some more and also speak out about injustices in this world. Your post move me to tears. Thank you once more and keep speaking out on behalf of women who are unable to let their voice be heard.

  2. As a woman who was in an abusive relationship for almost 3 years of my young adult life, I definitely want to thank you and tell how much I appreciate your article. The world is so twisted today that people make evil look good and good look evil. I also pray this young lady finds true love in Christ. Like me, I pray that she too will soon realize her worth and most importantly God’s unconditional love for her.

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