Men, listen up! I know there are things you don’t enjoy talking to others about but it’s time for change. Discussing your uneasy experiences in life will benefit you and the ones you love especially if you are the father of a young man.
OPENING UP: Becoming vulnerable isn’t easy but it’s very rewarding. The average man doesn’t have a clue of who they are because most men are driven by pride and ego.
The fact is, we don’t know how to process our feelings. Society teaches us to respect women but rarely are there messages geared toward teaching us how to respect ourselves first.
When problem arises our egos tell us our manhood is on the line. In response we confess our sins to another man in bars or in barber shops instead to God.
The Bible says in Numbers 12:3, that Moses was the most humble person on the Earth. It takes humility for a man to go to another man and admit that he’s hurting or ask for help.
Meekness is not weakness. We men battle the same battles we just doesn’t tell anyone.
FATAL ATTRACTION: A new standard of right and wrong in Matthew 5:28, “But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust in his eye has already committed adultery with her in his heart”. And it’s not just another man’s wife, but ANY woman even your own!
This scripture does not mean men shouldn’t appreciate a woman’s physical beauty; rather we should limit our observations. The more we stare at a beautiful woman the more our mind works in favor of the flesh.
Understand that lust is a sin that needs dealt with. Just like Eve stared at the forbidden fruit a great deal of our sins manifests through our eyes.
OUR DOUBTS: Have you ever asked yourself, “Am I failing as a husband or father?” or “Will I ever get a better job to support my family?”
Everyone has doubts and we all need God’s help to overcome them.
This supported in Mark 9:24, “I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!” This is encouraging to men, because it shows that the healing from God is not dependent on having perfect faith.
SPIRITUAL RESPONSIBILITY: Men raised by single mothers has a lot to do with women dominating our homes today even when there’s a man present.
From taking care of dinner, to washing clothes, or establishing family rules, some men think it’s normal for women to take care of these things. This also extends to family spirituality.
Because a good amount of men never grew up in an environment where the man was the spiritual leader, many don’t feel capable of assuming spiritual responsibility in their own homes.
Our spiritual growth shown in how we act or react to situations in our homes. As a man your opinion on the direction your family is going spiritually need speaking about so be open with your loved ones when the time is right.
The home is a place where mutual respect is shown. A real man feeds and protects his family spiritually. Like in Joshua 24:15, “But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.”
It’s time for us men stop letting our ego and pride (Satan), keep us from becoming the men God intended us to become. A God-fearing confident leader who’s gentle and understanding without giving up one bit of masculinity. Jesus was such a man.