Have you been thinking about your in-laws lately? Assessing how they are too involved in your marriage?
Wondering how they can make you feel like you’re not good enough?
I can honestly say that friction can and will pop-up in your marriage regarding your in-laws. From borrowing money to giving advice on raising your children, in-laws can become a distraction in your marriage.
But there’s no need to panic and file for a divorce. Because it’s not what your in-laws say and do that’s the problem; its how you react to it.
Here are some points that will help you deal with your in-laws in a healthy way.
Stop saying negative things about your mate to them.
The more you sit on the phone for hours telling your mother how much of a creep your mate is, the more she’s going to feel she need to be involved in your marriage. Parents don’t forget. It’s best to discuss your concerns with your mate at an appropriate time.
Listen to your mate with your heart.
Most people are in denial about their family or they justify their actions. It’s usually our mates who can see things we can’t. Your wife’s or husband’s concerns MUST COME FIRST. Most marriages are destroyed when one don’t put the other first.
Don’t be passive.
If your wife have a problem with your mother don’t expect her to be the one to confront your mother.
It’s your mother and your responsibility. That way, your mother and your wife knows who comes first. Proper communication must be a priority in any relationship.
Try to understand your in-laws. A lot of times they have good intentions but don’t know how to let go. They may even feel abandoned.
To parents no person is good enough for their child so try to understand their point of view.
The things that concerns you about your in-laws your mate often is aware of.
Don’t try to make your mate handle it YOUR way. It takes courage to face parents with the truth. Allow your mate his or her process because if you love them you won’t try to fix them by rushing their process.
Don’t try to live up to your in-laws expectations.
You are good parents.
Many problems with in-laws comes from their view on raising children.
Don’t try to raise your children differently so your in-laws will like you.
If you and your mate are satisfied with how you are raising your children that’s all that matters.
All relationships are about love and that includes with in-laws. Deal with them by setting healthy boundaries, keeping peace by putting your mate first, and respecting their point of view.