You ever seen someone coming towards you and said to yourself, “Here come such and such.” Then you began to walk the other way hoping they didn’t see you too. Usually when we do this it’s because there is something about this person’s character that we don’t like.
Maybe they like to gossip or that they always have to one up the other person. Regardless of the reason there’s something about them which makes us not want to be in their presence.
What if you could see yourselves coming like you see others coming? Don’t act like you don’t know what I’m talking about. We all have this one side to us (or maybe two sides) that we don’t like and we try to keep it hidden but under the right circumstances we know that other side can show up making us upset or angry.
We must learn to see that other side coming BEFORE it does harm. And we do this through self-awareness. You still don’t understand what I’m saying when I say see yourself coming? Let me give you a kind reminder. 🙂
Children. Those little bitty balls of joy. Don’t you just love them? But sometimes they can be demanding…”Mommy….Mommy…Mommy!” You get my point. And sometimes that can get under your skin to the point you may have thought about grabbing them. Some of you have grabbed them only to feel guilt after.
You ask yourself, “What was I thinking?”
Then at other times when they act in this same manner it’s as if you don’t even notice them and you just let them continue to say Mommy until their heart’s content and they go into the other room and start calling…”Daddy…Daddy…Daddy!”
What was different? What makes you more tolerant and patience one day more than the other? YOUR SPIRITUAL CONDITION.
When you are at peace can’t too many outside influences effect that. It’s called joy. Even thought God is always present with you sometimes you don’t feel His presents. And that’s when you want to control your life.
But every time you take control of your life you lose contact with God and it seems like He left you. I going to share a secret with you…God isn’t the one who moved.
“I command you–be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the LORD your God is with you wherever you go.” (Joshua 1:9)
It’s impossible to see yourself coming if you don’t know yourself. And in order to know yourself you must practice self-honesty and self-acceptance.
The Holy Spirit and your conscience will help you look within and expose your good, bad and indifference. You will meet a new person after this self inventory so shake his hand and get to know the real you.
The LORD’s searchlight penetrates the human spirit, exposing every hidden motive. (Proverb 20:27)
This is important because everyday your spiritual condition isn’t going to be at peace. Sometimes you’re going to be irritated easily and have no patience at all. But now you know yourself on a spiritual level so when you’re unease you can H.A.L.T and ask yourself some questions.
The acronym H.A.L.T. stands for:
Paying close attention to these four conditions will help you see yourself coming. You must be aware of your flaws and understand the destruction they are causing you. When you’re feeling any of these you can become mean and critical. So always HALT and be alert by asking yourself are you hungry, angry, lonely or tired. One or two of these are usually present.
But what if you’re okay with all of these and you continue acting out in ways that hurting your loved ones and yourself? You’re tired of asking yourself how did I get here again? These are the times you have to go below the surface and get to the hidden motives and ask yourself some deeper spiritual questions.
Am I committed to change? Am I willing to do anything to help stop these character flaws from ruining my life and stop me from deceiving myself?
After answering these questions honestly you must be willing to find yourself an accountability partner. I have one myself and it’s the best think I could have done for myself.
For instance, now instead of saying something on impulse to my wife that can cause harm to her when she’s irritating me, I call my accountability partner and share with him what I’m thinking and feeling. Then he show me another perspective in the matter.
Remember others can see you coming before you can. Ask you Pastor about helping you team up with an accountability partners at your Church. You won’t regret it.
Learning how to see yourself coming is a life long process. Because God is always showing you things he wants you to improve or remove. When you learn this important skill situations will no longer control you.
It’s time for you to let God do some spiritual surgery on you so in every situation you can see yourself coming and get out of God’s way.
AM I PLACING UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS ON OTHERS AND MYSELF?
HAVE I TAKEN THE DRIVER’S WHEEL FROM JESUS AND BEGAN TO DRIVE MY OWN LIFE?