Technology Friend or Foe?

office-620822_640My spirit asked me, “What do you really see”?

Then the Holy Spirit led me back down memory lane, back to when I was a child. My brother Keith and I use to spend time together helping Moms cook in the kitchen (something I wasn’t into), and then we all would sit at the dinner table where she would ask us how our day had been.

This taught us how to have eye to eye contact and how to enjoy a conversation.

Something that is beneficial to me now.

This was when dinner was about more than just eating and when children did all of their social networking on an app called “outside”.

I remember the good ole’ days, when kids being creative and using their imagination was the norm.

I had to ask myself, “Is technology bringing my family together or pulling us apart”?

When a phone was a phone

Technology is shaping how we interact as a family.

I’m taking full responsibility of my role in being a part of this modern threat to my family.

Today I can make a call, listen to music, watch a show, play a game, e-mail my friends, and take a picture, all from my cell phone.

Sometimes when I wake up I grab my phone to check Twitter and Facebook before I use the restroom or pray!

I have even texted my wife while sitting next to her on the couch.  Wow.

This type of communication is the new normal in modern homes.

Seeing this is taking a toll on our family, my wife came up with a new rule when we are out having dinner.

We put our cell phones on silent and stack them on top of each other and we’re not allowed to touch them at all.

This allow us to engage in healthy conversation and take pleasure from interacting with one another.

We are getting so much out of it, that now we practice it at home: TV  off, no cell phone or internet for at least 45 minutes each day. 


One definition of addiction is “habitual repetition of excessive behavior that a person is unable or unwilling to stop, despite its harmful consequences”.

People spending hours playing electronic games or surfing the internet are being robbed of sleep and becoming isolated from family are signs of addiction.

For a while I couldn’t go anywhere or do anything without wondering if someone had retweeted one of my tweets or commented on my Facebook post.

We can get addicted to drugs, gambling, sex, food, and  technology.

Addiction makes you think you are controlling your devices but they are controlling you.

The Devil wants to divide the family and in a subtle way using technology.

Example: It’s been said that more than a third of divorce filings last year contained the word Facebook.

 Family Connected

We stay spiritually connected as a family the same way our cell phones stay connected to its mobile tower.

The Bible places high importance on the family:

1 Timothy 5:8  If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

I don’t think family time is high on the priority list for many families. Husband and wife should spend plenty of time with each other and with the children. They shouldn’t use technology as a babysitter by limiting the amount of time their children spend consuming technology.

It’s time for parents to take responsibility for their role played in letting technology control their families and raise their kids.

Children learn fast by what their parents do.

Plan activities with the family and it doesn’t need being expensive.

This may sound lame to some, but my family and I take many walks in the park together.

Besides not only is technology becoming a wedge between family members but it’s also become a health issue.

Most uses of technology don’t require activity, and inactivity can lead to being overweight, obese, or developing Type 2 diabetes.

We try to find balance in everything we do, from our posture to the check book, and to our diet.

But balancing our time and dependence on technology is the most important.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 says there is a time for everything.

We shouldn’t allow our use of electronic media to interrupt time we spend with friends, family, or engaging in spiritual activities.

Just because the family lives in the same house at the same time, doesn’t mean the family is close-knit.



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4 replies

  1. There is so much that you are teaching us in this post. Thank you for the great perspective, and for helping us with something so important in this ultra modern age.

    I enjoyed your post today on Back to School too – really helpful as a Mom. I couldn’t find it on your site to comment directly, but so glad I found this one as well in the process. Keep teaching us with your great blog! ~Suzy

    • I guess it’s never too late to reply to your comment Suzy. LOL As always, Thank YOU! I’m going to keep on reading your blog and keep on learning and applying. Thanks for being a big part of my journey.

  2. It is unfortunate how rapid we have allowed the internet to enter our lives. Read The Shallows by Nicholas Carr to see how technology is changing who we are. It is very eye opening.

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