I use to live in a self-made prison and I didn’t know who I was or what I believed. The only thing that was on my mind was what’s in it for me. I never experience true freedom because I had not asked. God tells us all we have to do is ask Him.
What is causing you quarrels and fights among you? Isn’t it the whole army of evil desires at war within you? You want what you don’t have, so you scheme and kill to get it. You are jealous for what others have, and you can’t possess it, so you fight and quarrel to take it away from them. And yet the reason you don’t have what you want is that you don’t ask God for it. And even when you do ask, you don’t get it because your whole motives is wrong— you want only what will give you pleasure (James 4:1-3).
One of the first things God taught me was that my life isn’t about me. Every since I was a child I thought it was about what I wanted and about how I felt. Even when I got older I still though it was about my education, my career, my saving…My…My….My.
But when I devolved a personal relationship with Him I found out not only my life wasn’t about me but it NEVER had been about me and it NEVER will be about me!
I picked up some strange mannerism trying to get my way. And they didn’t stop when I became older. God had to work overtime to get me to see me. My childish ways had to go if I was to be a servant of God.
I remember a time in my marriage that if my wife didn’t want to make love I would go into the other room and pout like a baby. Okay I really didn’t pout but I would be mean-spirited. I know there’s a lot of women who have experienced this with their husbands or boy friends. And I also know not too many men will admit it.
The reason why I’m confessing is not only because a marriage can’t work if you’re thinking of yourself all the time, but also because God will help us with ANYTHING as long as our motives are pure and it’s His will.
After Nicole had made me aware of this I finally admit it then I took it to God. I asked Him to help me in that area. And He did.
I can’t began to tell you how much freedom I got after that and how much freedom Nicole start to experience too. God wants us all to receive the freedom He has to offer but first we must admit that there’s a problem.
NO MATTER WHAT’S GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE THERE ARE THREE STEPS YOU MUST TAKE TO FREEDOM:
First ask yourself. No matter what other people tell you about yourselves you’re not going to change if you don’t admit it. God placed people in your life to help you grow spiritually. He knows others can see your short-coming better than you can. Instead of getting upset when you hear constructive criticism ask yourself could it be true. It most likely is.
Second check your motives. You may be thinking you’re doing the right thing by asking God to help you but why are you asking Him for help? Are you asking Him to satisfy your own personal gain? Your motives are often hidden in the dark so ask God to shine His light on your motives. You’ll be surprise of what you find.
Finally ask God is it His will. Everything we do suppose to be according to His will. The reason He delivered me from my sucker attacks I was having when I didn’t get my way was because it wasn’t His will. Some people try to gain freedom by working hard; I tried to gain it by getting my way. They both are an illusion.
God is waiting to free you from anything that’s hurting you are preventing you from growing in Him spiritually. All you have to do is ask Him to help you.
ASK YOURSELF: AS FOR PRAYER, ARE YOU MORE LIKELY TO GIVE UP OR HANG TOUGH?
AS YOU STRUGGLE WITH PROBLEMS IN YOUR LIFE, WHAT DO YOU NEED MOST?