If you and your mate can discuss your finances in a calm manner consider your relationship blessed. Because not only is money the number one reason for divorces it’s also the number one reason for arguments.
But why is this? Why two people who claim they love each other can’t talk civil about money? In this post we will take a look at the root cause of money problems in relationships.
I once knew a guy who loved to save money while his wife spent unnecessary. He was always frustrated because he would have to use their saving to bail her out. I asked him had he ever sat down with his wife and discussed it. He said they see eye to eye on most things but money isn’t one of them.
Couples usually come into relationships with different views about money. That’s why it’s important for them to talk about it early in the relationship.
The guy’s father taught him how to save his money. He was raised in an environment where money was respected while his wife, on the other hand, was raised in a more free-spirited environment toward money. She developed in her youth a “we only live once” attitude that carry on into her adulthood.
Now can you see why they had problems discussing their money? But that’s just touches the surface of their money problems. Lets dig a little deeper.
FEAR IS THE NUMBER ONE REASON COUPLES DON’T DISCUSS MONEY
Some people spend their money on just about everything because of the fear of not having enough. Then there are those who save without spending much at all because of fear of the unknown.
But as for relationships are concerned, most couples don’t talk about their money because they fear their mate will discover how unmanageable they are and they don’t want to change.
Relationships are about change, respect, trust and honesty. It’s about maturing together in love. When you become vulnerable and admit your short-coming to your mate it builds a stronger bond. You become spiritually connected. It takes effort but it can be done.
TIPS ON WHAT TO DO
Honestly share your fears about money with your mate. Also let them know what areas you fall short in. It just may be a strong attribute of your mates. This will let your mate know you trust them.
Respect your mate’s concerns. Although you may had been raised with a certain belief about money, learn to be open to change. Remember you and your mate are a team. And good teammates listen to each other and will do whatever it takes to help his team win.
They say money is the root of all evil but I don’t believe that. I believe it’s our attitude about it that’s evil.
WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME I HAD A LOVING DISCUSSION WITH MY MATE ABOUT MONEY?