When We cry FOUL

Anyone who plays basketball on a regular basis can remember going to the basketball court, and seeing that one dude. You know the one that can’t ball a lick but rocking the latest Jordan’s and a fresh fade (all the while knowing he’s the owner of the only good basketball out there)?

But when he doesn’t get picked up, he “cries foul” by taking his ball and going home.It’s sad to say, but many people react to life’s events, issues and even other people the same way:

By crying foul and becoming a victim to their own reactions.


Whenever a finger points at someone else and not at the person doing the pointing, that person is crying foul.  They’re not taking responsibility for his/her part in the situation.  People have a role in every situation they are in.

In the above example, the guy who took his ball to spite everyone else, his role was that he wasn’t a good player.  Whether it was obvious to him or not, he still had a role.  He just didn’t take the time to think about his role.

A natural reaction of people is to stay focused on things they have no control over, that way, they won’t have to deal with the consequences/repercussions themselves (but remember, it starts and ends with You).  People can either control their reactions or be controlled by them and in turn, become a victim (crying foul).

People who cry foul spend most of their time killing themselves with negative talk. They look for reasons not being happy. They never learned how to love themselves, so they throw themselves a pity party. While rationalizing their life away and spiritually dying, they become a prisoner in their own mind.They use their self-pity to manipulate others.

Throughout history people have wondered, “Is there life after death?” But for the folks who cry foul, one would have to ask them, “Is there life before death?” The cycle of life tells us bad things happen to good people. Society will lose jobs, people will die, and relationships broken. It’s called LIFE.

Unfortunately, some of us really have being victimized, through rape, hate crimes, and who knows what else. These are the people who, if they cry foul, no one would question them why.  Some people have every right to have negative feelings towards certain aspects of society (judicial system, police, family), all for various reasons.

But I want to put the spotlight on people who are committing crimes against themselves. A crime committed when someone deceives themselves by crying foul. Some must learn that the world doesn’t revolve around them and that no one owes them a dime. Misery is optional.

Crying foul keeps us from growing. Moms always told me as a kid, “Look boy, it’s not my job to give you everything. It’s my job to teach you right from wrong.”

And I’m grateful she did. Because it taught me I’m responsibility for my life. Many people have not been taught right from wrong, which are the basics of life. So they never learn how to live or learn how to grow. They barely exist.

Playing victim is so ingrained in people, that they get their identity by it. They make statements like, “I really got it bad!” and “You don’t understand!” These ‘poor me’ statements are indicators that they want attention and want to be unique.They act as if they are the only ones who have to live life on its own terms.

So how can we get people to take part in their own lives and stop crying foul? By teaching them how to ride the wave of life with appreciation of themselves and showing gratitude. We all need each other. Sometimes people need others in their life, to point out the good in them, to give encouragement and teach them how to forgive others, and themselves. Either cry foul or change, we do have a choice.

If there is anyone I could think of who should have cried foul, it is Joseph. There is a lot that we could learn from his life. His brothers plotted to kill him, falsely accused him of rape, and then he’s thrown into jail. Not one time did he cry foul, in fact, he excelled in everything he did becoming second only to the king.

In the end he forgave he brothers, saying in Genesis 50:20 “As far as I’m concerned, God turned into good what you meant for evil” And he can do them same for us too, but first we must stop, crying foul.



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2 replies

  1. I enjoyed this. I cry foul more than I realize, or want to. I’m a perfect work in progress, and word like these surely help that process. Thank you for allowing the courage that has been given to you, to be used to post such material as this. God speed.

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