When going to church, you may see many women by themselves. But, all are not single. All over the county, there are thousands of married women praising God in church by themselves, praying that when they get home God’s love will rub off on their husbands.
“Lord, please bless this home and someday give my husband the spirit to join me in praising you. Amen.”
They pray and put all trust in God because they so desperately want their children raised by Christian teaching with their husband’s leading the way.What should a woman in this situation do, when her husband doesn’t want to go to church, or doesn’t even believe in God? How can she please God and her husband?
Putting it in God’s Hands:
Obeying God no matter what your spouse believe can become a critical turning point in your relationship.
For many women it will take patience, faith, and a lot of praying to not become discouraged and give up. God doesn’t give us the power to change others. But we do have the power to survive our own emotions, press on, and believe.
Have faith in your vision of a better future for yourself and your family. Keep doing what God wants you to do: Put your marriage/relationship in God’s hands – and wait.
The Power of Example:
Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husband so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives ( 1 Peter 3:1-2).
Believe it or not, those unbelieving husbands, who have rejected the word, is influence by his wife’s behavior. You can either be a positive influence or a negative influence.
Part of a successful marriage is the ability to become vulnerable, resolve conflicts, and to accept the truth when confronted by it. In this case, the truth just is that your husband may never come to believe. A Christian woman must learn being ok with that, because it just may be a part of God’s plan to help you both.
Who’s Number One?:
Matthew 10:36 says, “Your enemies will be right in your own home.”
It’s costs to follow Christ and it’s a price we all have to pay. When Christ becomes number one in our lives, we must “hate” everyone else. We must “hate” our mother, our father, our children, and even ourselves. “Hate”, as in we must love all those people less than we love God.
Jesus said he came as a sword, cutting up souls and splitting up families. Many women, who are true followers of Christ, have a lot of strife in their homes because of this commitment. Jesus said that’s a blessing. When we love Christ more than we love other people, we are more forgiving, show unconditional love, and we persevere.
When our obligation to our spouse conflicts with our obligation to Christ, we must give Jesus the preference.
Don’t Give Up:
I can only imagine how hard it being married to someone who doesn’t share your same spiritual commitment. Coming to believe is a lifelong process, so don’t give up.
“Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved you and your household. Then they spoke the word of the Lord to him and to all the others in his house. At that hour of the night the jailer took them and washed their wounds; then immediately he and his family were baptized.” (Acts 16:31-33)
We must show patience with people and remember there was a time when you didn’t believe. God gives our loved ones the same direction to salvation that he gave to us. Letting them live through their own experiences, may be necessary before they come to believe.
And as a daily presence in their lives, you are a part of their experiences, so remember this when it comes to your attitude and actions.
We don’t know what it’s going to take for others to believe, but we must continue to believe it’s going to happen, and that should bring us serenity. Remember how much joy you had when you first committed your life to Christ? Well, you must pray that you will share that same joy of seeing your whole family come to the Lord.