One evening, Nicole and I were watching a television show about getting through the first year of marriage (seems fitting since we’re also newlyweds). I saw something on the show that took me aback. During one scene, a man felt rejected by his parents because they didn’t agree with his life style; he was an openly gay man.
I could see the sharpening pain of rejection cutting at his soul. At that point I wondered how I would’ve felt, had my mother rejected me when I revealed to her I was suffering with drug addiction? I arrived at the conclusion that it would be too much for me to bear.
The promise to love our children “no matter what” is spiritual in nature so parents may want to consider the consequences their children face when they reject them.
Jesus intended for us to love our children whether they are prostitutes, thieves, drunkards or homosexuals. In 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 it says none of these will share in the Kingdom of God but where does it say do not love them?
As a matter of fact, in verse 11 it states, “There was a time some of you were just like that, but now your sins have been washed away.”
It was God’s love, grace, mercy and forgiveness that washed away our sins. Jesus said if we refuse to forgive others, God will not forgive ours sins. (Matthew 6:15).The way we treat people proves what we believed about God. We are to love our children “No matter what” and not only when we agree with how they are living.
It’s important to understand that children feel hopeless when they aren’t living up to their parent’s expectations.
In order for parents to better understand their children, keep the line of communication open by listening with a heart of compassion. Children experience their first sense of security in life from their parent’s unmistakable love. They will feel helpless sometime, but our job as parents is to make sure they don’t feel hopeless.
Parents are often too concerned about what others may think when their child is different. Love suppose to govern their actions and attitude not reputation. Placing reputation above love often causes our children to live secret lives. No parent should want their child wishing they could be someone else, but it happens all the time when parents don’t embrace their differences.
Pray for your children and teach them through your actions what God’s love is.
Nicole and I teach our children to be who they are! To love and embrace the skin they’re in. It’s not our job to judge them, but to love them “No matter what”. You can love your child without agreeing with their life style. That’s what all children need, love in action. That’s what society needs.